Growing up, Thanksgiving was always a time to get together with lots of friends and family. Big crowds, lots of food, lots of talking and a few people falling asleep on the sofa after too much turkey and pie – good times, although often exhausting!!
Now that Rob and I are on our own away from our families, it’s our turn to be the hosts. We love to cook and entertain, so we are looking forward to hosting big gatherings for the holidays as well as many sport-watching events.
Unfortunately, Hubby isn’t home for Thanksgiving this year so Lovebug and I are on our own. We’ve been extremely blessed and have had several offers to join other families for Thanksgiving, and we were planning to join some friends but yesterday we changed our minds.
Because sometimes as a parent you just have to make the hard calls! Lovebug and I have been extremely busy the past couple of months between traveling to visit friends and having family come visit us. We’ve been WAY off of our normal routine for a couple months now, and it is catching up with us! Lovebug thrives on routine, and gets all out of sorts after too many days away from it. Yesterday as she and I were both extremely emotional (for no apparent reason), we realized that we were both feeling the effects from all the go-go-go and needed a break. It came out that neither one of us was looking forward to being around a big crowd of people without Hubby, or about all the shopping and cooking that would be required. Lovebug expressed to me that she was uncomfortable about being at someone else’s house with all the noise & people. In fact, she was showing a lot of anxiety about it.
The fact that she was feeling this way even though she’s been to this friend’s house many times and she’s very comfortable there, was a sign for me to pay extra attention to her signals and figure out what her body needs.
With her SPD, she is easily over-stimulated when there are lots of noises, smells, & sights to take in. When she’s well-rested, well-fed, and well-exercised, she can handle these crowded times for a while, as long as she also has some time to recover afterward. Lately, her body is extremely tired from all the things we’ve had going on. She’s also super excited about Daddy coming home soon yet sad he’s not here for Thanksgiving, so that throws her body off a bit too as she tries to handle all the emotions.
So, we decided to make our own special Thanksgiving here at home! After we talked about it and had a plan, it was obvious in her body language how much relief she felt. I immediately felt a weight off my shoulders as well because I know it will help her “recharge” while giving us some special time together. We are both super excited about our new plan for our first Thanksgiving on our own.
Here is our new low-key plan for Thanksgiving 2011:
* Get up and watch the Macy’s Day Parade in our PJs
* Do Thanksgiving crafts
* Cuddle up on the sofa and read lots of books
* Eat homemade chicken nuggets, french fries and mashed sweet potatoes (Lovebug’s requested menu) – why not?
* Start decorating for Christmas
* Watch Charlie Brown’s Thanksgiving
The day after Thanksgiving while all the Black Friday shoppers are rushing around the stores, we are going to head to the movie theatre for the new Muppets movie! We’ll also spend some time baking and working on a puzzle.
Sounds like a great idea to me!