Tonight, Hubby sent me this picture of himself via text message….
So, Lovebug and I decided to send one back. My phone has 2 cameras – one on the front and one on the back. I tried to use the (lesser quality) one on the front so that we could see ourselves and therefore get a better picture.
It didn’t work so well. But it was really funny.
This is what our photo shoot looked like:
Then, I gave up and switched to the back camera. I took it in the bathroom and stood in front of the mirror while aiming the camera at ourselves so we could make sure we were both in the shot.
Hubby has been gone since the end of August for training, and this really helps her feel connected to him! He’s not deployed, and we are blessed to get to talk to him almost every night, but this is still the longest that she’s ever been separated from her Daddy. I can only imagine how much these dolls must help a child during a deployment!!
Since Hubby’s mini-me arrived, he has joined us for Trick or Treating, outings at the Arboretum, Sunday mornings at church, just running errands, and cuddling when she goes to sleep! She loves having Daddy by her side!
We’re in the Army now! I know Hubby has been in for 28 days already, but yesterday really sealed the deal for me. I was blessed to get a chance to visit him on post because he had a day “pass”, and while it came with lots of rules, it did allow us to spend a lot of time together. We didn’t think we would get to see each other at all during this training course, so it was a nice surprise!
My parents were kind enough to keep the baby for me, so Lovebug and I made it a Girls Only Road Trip! We left early Sunday morning bright and early. Let me just say that I LOVE traveling with my daughter. We talk some, and sing some songs, but mostly she just wants to read. So cute! We hit the library the day before the trip and loaded up on books. She read 3 chapter books in the first hour and a half! One of our pit stops at a gas station had a little ‘store’ inside, and she spent a few minutes petting each and every stuffed animal in the place! Then we grabbed some caramel popcorn to snack on, and got back on the road.
When we arrived on post around noon, Hubby wasn’t quite ready to meet us yet, so we wandered around the PX (Post Exchange), which would be known in the civilian world as the mall. Inside the PX we found (among a few other things I don’t remember) a food court, a florist, a video game store, a barber shop, and AAFES (pronounced A-FES), which is the Army & Air Force Exchange Service. This is like a huge Walmart without the grocery store, basically. It had everything…clothes, TVs, camping equipment, toiletries, books, candles, exercise equipment, snack food, linens, etc.
Oh, and let me back up a bit to tell you a funny story 🙂 When we got out of the car at the PX, Lovebug (spotting someone in uniform) said “Oooh! There’s someone that’s in the Army!”. Then, spotting another man in uniform, said “OOH! There’s someone ELSE that’s in the Army!!”. She was SO excited! It was precious.
Lovebug and I wandered around AAFES for a while until Hubby called to let us know he was there. He said he was “out front”, so Bug and I went out front…which to me meant outside. He wasn’t there. So I called to find out what he meant by “out front”. He meant outside of AAFES, but still inside the PX. We had walked right by him, and didn’t even see him in the sea of camo! He didn’t see us either though, so I don’t feel so bad.
At last, we were together!! Bug ran and jumped into his arms and squealed with joy!! She was so excited to see her Daddy. I was thrilled too, but not allowed to show it with quite the enthusiasm that she was (PDA rules and all).
He looks so good, and I couldn’t help but beam with pride as I realized…really realized, that I am married to a Soldier. He looks incredibly handsome in his uniform, and I could just see happiness on his face like he was back in his element. I haven’t asked him about it yet, but there was just a difference about him. I know he loved working with computers in the IT field, sure, but this is different. He likes physical activity, he loves his country, he’s been through some of this before, and I just wonder if he felt “at home”. I wonder if this doesn’t fit him so much better than sitting behind a desk all day. I think it does.
We went inside AAFES to grab something Hubby needed, and then he went to get a haircut at the Barber Shop (or maybe it was the other way around?). Either way, we then headed over to the bowling alley where we played a couple games, just relaxed and enjoyed each other’s company. It was fun to hang out together as a family, to laugh & play, and be together again. I couldn’t help but admire him when he went up to bowl his turn. All that PT has changed his body shape a bit, and adding the uniform just made me wish I was allowed to steal him away for a while. *wink wink* Unfortunately, he wasn’t even allowed to get in our vehicle during training, so there was no stealing away to be done.
We did play a bit outside the bowling alley before going in. Bug and Hubby chased each other around the trees laughing and getting out some excess energy 😉 We attempted to let Bug take our picture with our phone, and this resulted in us laughing hysterically. The wind was crazy, so my hair kept blowing in Hubby’s face. Bug kept moving, so the pictures would come out blurry. We finally managed to get a few decent ones!
We had a great time bowling! Lovebug beat me (and Hubby beat her) the first game…I just stunk!! Guess I needed to warm up, because I won the second game. They had these super cute ramps for the kiddos that were shaped like dinosaurs! The sweet lady at the counter said they were supposed to be for kids 3 and under, but that Lovebug looked tiny, so she let her use it. Eventually, she got tired of pushing it back and forth, so she did the “Granny Bowl” and rolled it between her legs. She did that once, and it took FOR. EV. ER. to get to the end of the lane, but when it did….she got a STRIKE!!! Seriously! I wish I could have gotten that on video. She was so funny because the ball would take so long to get down the lane, that she would lay down on her tummy, put her chin in her hands and watch it go.
After we were done at the bowling alley, we headed back to the PX so he could pick up a couple things he needed, grab some dinner and say our goodbyes. I didn’t cry this time. It was hard to say goodbye, but I was just so thankful to have had that time with him, and to know that in just a couple weeks I get to see him again for his graduation. That time, we get even more time together as he gets a longer “pass”.
I got a video of Hubby and Lovebug saying goodbye with their “Noggin, Nose, Cheek, Hug & Kiss” that they normally do every night before bed.
To my Love,
Thank you for letting us come visit you!! We had an awesome time and are so thankful for that time with you. You are in my heart and my thoughts all the time until we can be together again. I love you and am behind you 100% in all that you do! You are my love, my best friend, my hero, and I love you….Always & Forever! SMOOOOCHIES!
A couple days before Hubby left, Lovebug was talking to him about the Daddy Daughter Dance they went to back in February. Out of the blue Lovebug says to Daddy….”I wish we could do another Daddy Daughter Dance in our fancy clothes just in our living room at home!”. Hey! We can do that! Why not? Hubby said, “How about tomorrow morning?”, and they had a date!
She was so excited! Hubby was excited too about this chance to have one more dance with her before leaving. I was so glad that she said something so we were able to make her dream come true.
The next morning before we headed out for a family day, my sweet Hubby and my precious little girl got all dressed up! I just love seeing my husband in a tux – so handsome!! Just like our wedding day! Lovebug looked beautiful in her “fancy dance dress” too! She didn’t have to wear shoes either, so that was a bonus! I even served them snacks 🙂 I put together a playlist for them that included some slow, sappy ones as well as a couple fast dance songs. Here is the list:
Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman (I got in a little trouble for making him cry right away!)
The Crazy Dance by Go Fish
In My Daughter’s Eyes by Martina McBride
Daddy’s Little Girl by Michael Bolton
Cha Cha Slide by Mr. C
Think of Me by Veggie Tales
It was the most precious thing I have ever seen in my life…watching my husband and daughter spend those few moments together creating a lifetime of memories. I know it was a moment we will never forget. They both said this one was even more fun than the big dance they went to…much more relaxed and less crowded. Let me share a little bit with you! (I know….lots of images, but they are worth it!)
Yesterday was Hubby’s birthday. We had a special treat because his mom came into town for a few days. As her gift to him, she came over to the house and cooked us a super yummy dinner of chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes, and salad! YUM! Not only did she cook…she cleaned up the whole kitchen afterward. I have the best mother-in-law, ever!
(She’ll kill me for this…but, see how her tongue is sticking out? That means she’s thinking hard. Our daughter does it too. It’s no wonder, because she comes by it naturally on both sides of the family. My grandmother and my mom do it, and obviously my mother-in-law does too. Cute!)
Bug & I decorated the house a little bit before Hubby got home. It’s so precious to me that Bug insists on everyone having a birthday “party”. She just doesn’t understand why a grownup doesn’t care as much about their birthday as a kid does, so we indulge her.
To have a proper birthday in our house, you must have:
* The family birthday sign hung up (the same one….we’ve used it for years now)
* Birthday plates & napkins
* Some form of cake/dessert
* A chorus of “Happy Birthday”
* Party favors (yes, even the grownups!)
So, while Bug and I were at the store, she picked out party favors for Daddy. A bunch of squishy, sticky, stretchy lizards! Who wouldn’t want those? In complete LoveBug form, she had a plan for them. She wanted to take them home and give them a bath (because they had been sitting in the store a long time), and set them out on the table. Then, she decided who would get to pick theirs first (Daddy), and next (the family member with the next closest birthday).
We threw in a little math too because there were 12 lizards, and 5 people at the party (not counting Little Bear…these lizards were not safe baby toys). Bug figured out on her own that we needed 5 lizards for everyone to get 1 each, or we needed 10 lizards for everyone to get 2 each…..so that means we have 2 left over!! “Daddy can get 3, and I can get 3, and everyone else can have 2!”.
Bathing the lizards
Letting them dry
We also had a vendor at his party!! In the days leading up to Hubby’s birthday, Bug got it in her head that she wanted to have a lemonade stand on his birthday. She said that he would get cups of lemonade for just kisses since it was his birthday, but the rest of us would pay 25 cents. However, if we bought 2 cups, then we got free refills the rest of the night. She had it all planned out! I was so proud of her for all the planning and execution.
She helped me make the lemonade, and made her sign (She chose what to say, and I helped with spelling). We even threw some learning into it because she got to practice her handwriting while making the sign, and she used math to add up her money at the end of the sale.
Bug’s Lemonade Stand in the kitchen
Daddy got lemonade for just KISSES since it was his birthday!
Happy Birthday, Babe! I love you forever & always!! SMOOCHIES!
If a perfect stranger were to overhear the way you talk to or about your spouse, what would be their impression of your marriage? Of a Christian marriage? What if no words were heard, but one was left to judge your marriage on what they saw instead?
Today I was at the zoo with a friend, and we saw a married couple with their toddler son in the children’s play area. After one simple look at them, our hearts broke for this woman. The husband was wearing a t-shirt that displayed such a sad and disrespectful image of marriage. I can’t find it online, and I admit after trying and seeing all the others out there, I gave up looking.
On the left was “Before”, along with a stick figure man and woman looking very happy. On the right was “After”, complete with the sad face on the man and a drawing that resembled a woman nagging/talking/yelling at the man.
It was along the same lines as this one (notice the ball & chain, and the poor sad face on the man).
That simple shirt the man wore spoke volumes about the lack of respect this man must have for his wife, and for marriage. How is his young son going to learn respect for his mother, for his future wife, when this is what is displayed when they go out in public?
Worldview would have us believe that we are too sensitive if that bothers us or we are offended by that. That it’s only a joke. That’s what the enemy wants you to think. He wants you to enjoy that type of humor a little at a time until he wears you down and you start believing that it’s normal. What it is, is sad.
I am so incredibly thankful each and every day to have a husband that truly loves and respects me. I only hope that he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt how much admiration I have for him. I am married to my best friend. He is my partner in life, finances, parenting – everything! He works hard at his job to provide for us. He has an amazing work ethic, and practices his values at work as much as home. He is constantly trying to better himself spiritually, and as he learns new things for work. He absolutely adores being a daddy! He *never* “babysits” our daughter, but rather plans special daddy-daughter dates just because he wants to. He welcomes my opinion, but stands firm in leading us when God directs him. He prays with us, and for us. He helps around the house, is a great cook, and doesn’t mind (too much) if his clean underwear is still in the basket because I was out all day spending time with our daughter. He isn’t afraid to ask for help, but is also amazingly talented at figuring out a way to do something. He does without extra things, so that we can do more for our daughter, for our friends, and for the needy that God calls us to help. He is trusting. He is faithful. He is compassionate. He is supportive. He loves my family. He loves me. He loves the Lord! I could not ask for a better husband! God put us together in an amazing way that only He could do, and I hope that I can continue to grow and be the wife that he needs and deserves.
Love your spouse! Compliment them in front of others. Build them up and encourage them. Find out their love language, and use it. The best gift you can give your children is to love your spouse.
Make God the third strand in your marriage!!
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecc 4:12)
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Prov 31:10-12)
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Eph 5:22-33)
Remember, wives are not called to submit ONLY IF the husband leads. Husbands are not called to lead ONLY IF the wife submits. God is giving us each a commandment here and we are each responsible for obeying our Father.
I have the best husband in the world! Really. Although, I’m sure many of you feel the same way about your husbands – at least I hope you do!
This year, my birthday falls on Mother’s Day. My absolute favorite gift would be to get to sleep in, have a peaceful long quiet time, and then have some time to read and write…and that’s just what I got!
Since we go to church on Sunday, I can’t sleep in then. We have a training class to go to tomorrow (Saturday), so that won’t work either. So, TODAY is the day! Rob got up, got Emily dressed and ready to go and he took her to Whole Foods this morning for a special treat (a new tradition for Mother’s Day maybe?). I don’t know whether she’ll choose a muffin, a donut, or a cupcake for breakfast, but I know she’ll love the time with Daddy! I also know that I love them both for the time alone. (I later found out she had a very yummy scone!)
Don’t get me wrong…I ADORE my family! I could not think of a better job than to be a wife and mom. I love taking care of my family, and our home. I really do. God has blessed me with being able to truly enjoy the role He has called me to, and I am thankful for that. I love to cook for them, to play with Emily, even doing laundry and dishes gives me satisfaction. I could do without cleaning the bathrooms though! But as much as I enjoy all that, I truly enjoy some quiet time to sit, to pray, to listen to God, and to think. To think…..that’s something you can’t do much of when all you hear is “Mommmmmmmyyyyyyyyyyyyyy”.
Normally, on these special days when Rob lets me sleep in, and I wake up to a cup of coffee on my nightstand. (Bliss!!) This morning – no coffee. I assumed he got busy getting Emily up and ready to go, so after sending him a joking text message of “who moved my coffee?”, I went in the kitchen to make my own. Guess what I found right next to the coffee maker?